Don't you judge me

I haven't posted in 4 months. I'm so not good at these things.

One of my good friends had this as her Facebook Status "Never judge parents with older kids than yours". I agree - to a point. I do not agree with the whole "Don't judge people" or "Don't judge a book by it's cover". You absolutely should judge people. It doesn't make you a bad person - it is vital to keep you safe.

If a man came to my door, saying that he'll babysit my children for free...should I not judge him? Should I allow him into my home and let him watch my kids just so I am not judging him? Hells to the No. Sometimes it is important to judge other people. You may more some incorrect assumptions sometimes, but that's a risk I'm willing to take. By not juding people, you may be running yourself an even higher risk.

I judge prospective employees. I judge the person who turns their children forward-facing before it is legal. I judge people who go out every weekend and leave their children with babysitters. (This is not aimed at the person who goes out occasionally or has date nights, etc) I judge my mother who lets people at work walk all over her. I'm not ashamed to say that I have probably made swift judgements about every person I've met. Many of those judgements have been incorrect and upon getting to know others, I've retracted my judgements.

Speaking of judges - it's amazing how many Judge shows there are during daytime television. Every hour you can find some judge - Judge Judy, Judge Alex, Judge Pierro. I do not understand them. I'm all for the court system if it is needed, but my God. I saw a preview for one today where the girl was bringing someone to court because he had pulled her out of her car and started beating her up. Seriously? Does this guy honestly think that the woman judge is going to side with him on this one? Settle out of court my man.

Anyway - Don't be ashamed to judge others, just don't allow those judgements to interfere with being a good person.